Susceptibility in children: Spotting the Early Signs
Susceptibility in children is not a consequence of "bad company"
While teaching children to respect authority and listen to their parents, we build a foundation for a safe and healthy upbringing.
However, in the period up to age six, this same lesson can become a double-edged sword.
Although obedience is important, it can sometimes be extended to peers—so a child listens to older children who have no intention of being a good role model.
It’s important to understand the difference: susceptibility in young children is not a result of a desire to fit in, which is a common cause in teenagers.
In young children, it stems from inexperience and learning, a child cannot discern who is good and who is bad, so they follow a friend they trust.
This is why it’s crucial to act early, in the first years of childhood, to establish the foundations of independent thinking.
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1. Learning Begins at Home: The Family Role Model
Susceptibility doesn’t happen because of “bad company”, it’s part of the upbringing itself.
The greatest influence comes from parents.
By constantly correcting, criticizing, and telling a child they won’t be able to do something, parents undermine their self-confidence.
A child learns by observing. It’s not enough to just tell them not to be susceptible; they need to see how it’s done.
The family is the first classroom where a child should see how parents talk, express different opinions, and, in a healthy environment, find a common solution. This model teaches them that it’s okay to have their own opinion and that it doesn’t have to be identical to someone else’s.
So, model the behavior.
Show your child how to set boundaries and how to say “NO.” For example, if an older child acts as an “authority” and convinces yours to do something wrong, your calm and firm response like “That’s not okay, let’s do something else” is the most powerful lesson your child can get.
2. Practical Tips: Protect Your Child's Will, Don't Break It
Protect your child’s will; don’t break it.
Although strong-willed children can be challenging, they have an inherent resistance to being susceptible. Parents who try to “break their child’s will” for the sake of obedience are actually opening the door to the influence of others.
A child shouldn’t listen to you out of blind obedience, but because they trust you.
Show them that even if you can’t always give them everything they want, you make decisions that are in their best interest.
5 Steps to Independent Thinking
Here are some practical steps you can take right away:
Teach your child to recognize feelings: Children often agree to things because they don’t know how to recognize or express discomfort. Teach them that a “weird feeling in their stomach” is a sign that something is wrong. Show them that in those moments they can say, “I don’t like that,” or “I don’t want to do that.”
Set clear and consistent rules: A child who knows what is and isn’t allowed will more easily recognize when someone is trying to push them to cross a line. Rules like, “We don’t take other people’s things” or “We always ask if we’re not sure” give them a strong internal compass.
Practice through role-play: Have your child play different roles. For example, you act as a child convincing another: “Let’s run away from preschool!” Then, ask your child: “What would you do? What do you think is the right thing to do?” Through such games, a child develops an awareness of consequences and builds their internal compass.
Praise independent thinking: Whenever your child shows they’ve made a decision on their own, even if it’s a small thing, be sure to praise them. “That’s great, you decided to play alone because that game wasn’t fun for you! That’s awesome!” This kind of praise encourages independence and self-belief.
Building a strong character involves learning to make self-decisions according to developmental stages. – LINK is here
3. Cartoons as Allies
Cartoons are a great tool for discussing emotions and boundaries because children easily accept messages that come from the world of play.
Use them as a starting point for a conversation.
For example, Lola and Mila are great for learning how to say “no,” while Paw Patrol promotes courage and teamwork. Masha and the Bear use humor to show what happens when boundaries aren’t respected, and Peppa Pig addresses topics of friendship and problem-solving. Tesla’s Znanioni helps children understand emotions and empathy, which is the foundation for making independent decisions.
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✅ Conclusion
Parenting isn’t a list of rules; it’s a process. The goal of a parent isn’t to raise a blindly obedient child who will do whatever they’re told. On the contrary, the goal is to raise a child who possesses self-discipline, self-confidence, and, most importantly, knows who to trust.
Teach them to think for themselves, believe in them, and give them the opportunity to build their character, because such a person will have no need to prove themselves or fall under the influence of others.
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